ABOUT MATT PAVLIK

Hi and Welcome!

I am glad you are here.

I can schedule an appointment with you on a Monday, Tuesday, or Thursday from 1pm to 8pm in Dayton, Ohio. Or, I can provide online counseling or coaching via phone or video if you cannot make it to my office. You can Register for an Appointment.

Counseling Approach

I balance compassionate listening with direct questions and sharing my insights. I take time to really know you and provide personalized care. I patiently walk you through the process of healing deep hurts. I assign homework as appropriate to facilitate growth and healing. I have experienced with my clients that healing often happens when we dig into the root causes of your concerns and bring attention to what hurts while focusing on God. True healing involves experiencing truth and grace through a relationship with Jesus.

Accomplished by: Christian Counseling Talk Therapy, Christian Spiritual Direction, Inner Healing Prayer, Formational Counseling, and EMDR. These therapies include a blend of Spiritual, Experiential, Cognitive, Emotional, and Behavioral approaches.

Areas of Special Focus

Recovery from: Abuse, Neglect, Abandonment, Infidelity, Trauma, Post-Traumatic-Stress-Disorder (PTSD), Complex PTSD, Anxiety, Panic, Dissociation, Poor Self-Esteem, Insecurity, Codependency, Distance from God, Loneliness, Depression, Loss

Help with: Emotional and Spiritual Healing, Communication, Conflict Resolution, Finding your Identity, Confidence, Boundaries, Trusting, Marriage Restoration, Recovery from Abusive Relationships, Living Life Single, Dating Decisions, Divorce Prevention (Pre-Engagement and Pre-Marital Counseling), Grieving, Personal Growth as an Introvert, Getting in Touch with Feelings, Sorting through Out-of-Control Emotions, Spiritual Growth and Connecting to God

Areas of Competence

Provides counseling for individuals (adults), and couples. Provides supervision and clinical oversight.

Christian Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Counseling, Personal and Social Counseling, Family Counseling, Group Counseling, Mental Health Counseling, Supervision, May Independently Diagnose and Treat Mental and Emotional Disorders, May provide training supervision to individuals seeking licensure as professional clinical counselors and work supervision to professional counselors.

Biography

Matt Pavlik is a licensed professional clinical counselor who wants to see each individual restored to their true identity. He writes a weekly blog Christian Concepts with thought-provoking messages on understanding your God-given identity. He has written several books including To Identity and Beyond and Confident Identity helps you find your God-given identity and Marriage From Roots To Fruits helps you understand and grow a better relationship.

Matt became a Christian July 1991. He has more than 20 years of experience counseling individuals and couples at his Christian counseling practice, New Reflections Counseling. He completed his Masters in Clinical Pastoral Counseling from Ashland Theological Seminary and his Bachelors in Computer Science from the University of Illinois. Matt and his wife Georgette have been married since 1999 and have four children. They attend Centerville Christian Fellowship.

How Others View Matt

The following comments contain others' perspectives on Matt's role as a counselor. Because each person's struggles are unique, each person will respond to counseling differently. In addition to a counselor's skills, many other factors (such as a client's availability, investment, motivation, attitude, and ability to face difficult emotions) can determine the results of counseling. While Matt practices with evidence-based methods, the outcomes of counseling cannot be determined ahead of time. He might interact with you in completely different ways (than those depicted below) to help you reach your goals.

Matt is not able to help all people. Sometimes there is not a good fit between what people need and what Matt is able to provide. The comments below do not necessarily represent the specific outcome you will realize. They are only meant to help you get a better feel for Matt's personality and approach to counseling. They have been edited for readability. While Matt cannot guarantee any specific outcome, he will work with you to achieve the best results possible.

• Matt has an ability to ask questions that go right to the heart of the issue. Sometimes I did not like his questions, however, through answering them I was able to begin to see more clearly the real problem.
• He challenged my thinking pattern. He helped me to begin to see how my thought pattern was dysfunctional.
• He showed me a way to begin making my own decisions based on my priorities instead of impulsive thinking.
• The books, handouts, and exercises Matt had me read or complete were helpful. They showed me new ways of looking at different situations. They taught me life skills to use to deal with problems in my life.

• Matt helped me understand how my childhood has effected my marriage.
• He helped me understand there are boundaries to which no one should cross and I have the power and ability to set those boundaries.

• Matt listened and directed my thinking in a way that made sense.
• He helped me rediscover my God relationship. God and I have a much better relationship because of counseling.

• Matt helped me understand how to think of others to have a fulfilling life.
• He helped me see the need to break out of my safe zone and take risks to do things in different ways to achieve different results.
• He helped me understand the relationship between how I was nurtured or not nurtured as a child and mapping my views of my parents onto God whereas I should map the ideal view onto God and rely on that ideal to be met not the limited defective images I’ve seen through my parents.

• As a marriage counselor, Matt helped me by being a true neutral party. He gave simple, sound advice, which was easy to put in place and to see the results.

• Matt is easy to talk to and comfortable to be around, even for someone who has been uncomfortable around strangers their whole life.
• He showed concern and redirected my thoughts when needed. He was patient with me which was greatly needed.
• He pointed out how I was allowing others to compromise myself. I am not in a relationship any longer because he helped me realize the control that I actually do have over my life.
• I have expressed the joy and the bad aspects of my life to him and I am glad that he was there to hear me when no one else was.
• I thank him very much for these things that have helped shape my future relationship; they will always be in my mind.

• I found several moments very illuminating, and it was helpful to be able to respond to Matt's questions and see our relationship from an outside perspective.